**My Husband Refuses Couples Therapy Because He Says Only I Have the Problem**
For months, I’ve been suggesting couples therapy. Not because I think our marriage is doomed, but because I feel the cracks getting wider—arguments that never resolve, distance between us in bed, silences that last for days.
Every time I bring it up, my husband laughs. “Why waste money on that? You’re the one who’s unhappy. Go to therapy yourself.”
At first, I tried to explain. “It’s not just about me—it’s about *us.*”
But he always shrugs it off. “I’m fine. You’re the one with the problem.”
The thing is, I’m not fine. I’m exhausted. I’m tired of feeling like I’m carrying this marriage alone.
The breaking point came last week. We had another fight—this time about something stupid, like the laundry. I asked him why he never helps, and instead of answering, he snapped, “God, you’re so negative all the time. No wonder you think we need therapy. You’re the problem, not me.”
I stood there, shaking. “So you think you’re perfect? You think this is all my fault?”
He didn’t even look up from his phone. “Pretty much.”
Something in me cracked that night.
The next day, I booked a session—with or without him. When I told him, he smirked. “Good. Maybe they’ll fix you.”
I looked him dead in the eye. “No. Maybe they’ll help me decide if I want to stay married to someone who refuses to even try.”
For the first time in months, he didn’t have a quick comeback.
Here’s the truth: therapy only works if both people want to fight for the marriage. And if he won’t walk into that room with me, I may have to walk out of this marriage without him.
